Confucius was gentle, but firm. He inspired awe, but wasn’t harsh. He was respectful, but relaxed.
Confucius said, “We should look on the younger generation with awe. How are we to know if the coming generation won’t be our equals? Only after a person reaches forty or fifty and they haven’t been heard from should we not be in awe of them.”
Zixia said, “A noble person has three appearances. From a distance, they inspire awe. When you approach, they are warm. When you hear their words, they are insightful and demanding.”